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Compatibility Analysis between Charles Windsor (Prince of Wales) and Princess Diana

Birth times: Charles – 14 November 1948, 21:14, London England. Diana – 1 July 1961, 19:45, Sandringham England

Charles’s Relationship Potential
Charles’ chart shows challenges with expressing his assertive masculine nature.

He has a feminine Cancer ascendant, which gives him a sensitive, emotional and reserved nature. Yet straightaway this puts him at odds with the role of the supremely masculine and powerful role of the future King, assigned to him at birth.

Although his Sun is in the masculine sign of Libra, it has multiple afflictions. The Sun is debilitated, aspected by its enemy Saturn and is conjunct Ketu, all pointing to self-doubt and low confidence. The Sun also has reverse directional strength in the 4th house, and it is opposite a similarly afflicted 10th house Moon. This indicates frustration with inability to express his desire to act in public, inconsistency in his approach to responsibilities, emotional agitation and difficulty grounding himself.

We can trace these issues to Charles’s relationship with his parents (the Moon & the 4th house are karakas for the mother, and likewise the Sun & the 10th house are related to the father). A domineering and exacting man, Charles’s father, Prince Phillip, was frustrated with living in his wife’s shadow, and tried to express his unfulfilled ambition through his first-born son. Phillip attempted to shape the quiet, sensitive Charles into a tough, military-minded man. In an effort to stamp out Charles’s sensitive nature, Phillip sent him to a bootcamp-style boarding school, where Charles was bullied and miserable. Charles was also living in the shadow of his distant mother. Unsurprisingly, the Queen of England had little time for her child (Moon in the 10th = mother too busy dealing with responsibilities). When we take this childhood context into account, the root of Charles’s issues becomes clear as does his overwhelming desire for emotional connection in order to reaffirm his sense of self (his chart ruler Moon is with Rahu).

Charles’s Mars, another indicator of masculinity, is in Scorpio, a feminine sign. Mars is in its own home here and forms a strong raja yoga, showing a powerful mind focused on his responsibility in the world. Charles was ahead of his time in promoting environmental causes long before issues such as global warming entered public awareness. And yet this Mars placement in a feminine emotional sign of Scorpio waters down Charles’s masculine potential.

His Jupiter is in the masculine sign of Sagittarius, which is the one unblemished factor affirming Charles’s masculinity. Jupiter rules his 9th house of leadership and inspiration. Charles has established and promoted many charitable good causes in the spirit of service to his country (Jupiter is in the 6th house of service). Jupiter energy is often what women are drawn to in a man. In his youth, Charles was seen as a desirable figure: as an heir to the British throne, he was considered one of the world’s most desirable bachelors and had a string of affairs before settling down.

Venus, the relationship karaka, is debilitated in Virgo, which would give Charles exacting standards and make him quite picky and critical of his partners. This is, of course, unsurprising, given his regal upbringing and a number of criteria that his future bride had to fulfill. One such criteria was that his wife had to be chaste, and Virgo of course is related to chastity and innocence. Because Virgo is a feminine sign, it would also make him receptive to his partner’s desires, emotions and comforts (Venus rules the 11th and 4th houses).

Saturn, his 7th house ruler, is in the 2nd house in Magha. This shows looking for long-term commitment in relationships, and predisposition for marrying, although marrying on his own terms, with the sign of Leo and nakshatra Magha particularly being regal placements. Charles would be looking for respect from his partner, to be taken seriously and be treated as the future king, perhaps helping him overcome his many childhood insecurities through his relationship. Yet all this would come with a sense of low confidence about relationships given Saturn struggles in the sign of its enemy, Sun, and it also rules the difficult 8th house for Cancer.

Princess Di Relationship Potential
Just as Charles’s chart shows challenges with his masculine side, Princess Diana’s chart also shows some issues with feminine receptive energy.

Diana is a Scorpio ascendant. Scorpio is a feminine sign, and it gave her a reflective, thoughtful personality. Scorpio is, of course, ruled by Mars, a masculine planet. Diana’s Mars was exceptionally powerful and prominent in the 10th house of action in regal Magha, Leo, conjunct Rahu. Forming a powerful raja yoga, her Mars shows someone who is drawn to being active and being in the public’s eye. As a Scorpio, she would have wanted to help and protect the vulnerable, and this Mars placement would have re-enforced the need to express herself through doing the right thing out in the world. She once said, “Nothing brings me more happiness than trying to help the most vulnerable people in society”, which aptly summarised her tireless work for good causes, visiting AIDS patients and sitting with terminally ill children in cancer wards. Although this placement is one of the indicators that made Diana so popular among people, in her marriage, it would have strongly disrupted her willingness to accept a passive feminine role. With such a prominent and masculine chart ruler, it was not in her nature to be her husband’s shadow or meekly wait for him at home. In any other modern relationship, this may have worked out fine. Yet her husband was the future King, so she was expected to play second fiddle.

Diana’s Moon was in the active masculine sign of Aquarius, which shows difficulty with being receptive and desire to initiate ideas and be the inspiring leader (the Moon rules the 9th). Her Moon has directional strength in the 4th, giving her emotional resilience and anchoring her in the heart (she was famously called The Queen of Hearts – note that this Moon placement is casting a mutual aspect with her 10th house “Queenly” Mars). However, the Moon is closely conjunct Ketu, which made her prone to depression and becoming emotionally overwhelmed. She was separated from her mother when she was young and suffered the trauma of abandonment.

Mars aspect on her Moon would have also made her emotionally restless, passionate but always looking for change, emotional stimulation and action. Because Mars is also on an angle (7th) from her Moon, she would have looked to her partners to ground her emotionally, expecting passion and adoration in relationships. With Saturn before the Moon, she would have wanted to feel safe and to be taken seriously. She once confessed, “I don’t want expensive gifts; I don’t want to be bought. I have everything I want. I just want someone to be there for me, to make me feel safe and secure”. We can feel the pain of her difficult Moon in these words.

Diana’s Venus counterbalanced some of these challenges. It is in a feminine sign of Taurus, in its own home. Venus forms a great person yoga, which gave her the immense charisma and genuine ease with which Diana always related to everyone around her. Venus was extremely important for her as it also ruled her 7th house, making it a double indicator of relationships. Casting an aspect onto her ascendant, this Venus placement gave Diana her physical beauty, her much admired glamour and flawless fashion style, which remains iconic to this day. In a relationship, she would have wanted to be admired and to feel beautiful and be loved and desired. With the 7th ruler so strongly placed, she would have had extremely high expectations of her partner, creating an all too real risk of disappointment.

Compatibility analysis
Kutas
Sun – 23
Moon – 21.5
Mars – 32
Mercury – 26
Jupiter – 16
Venus – 21
Saturn – 8.5
Lagna – 18

The kuta scores for Diana and Charles are mostly, average. The most notable exception is the lowest 8.5 (Saturn – more on that later). The Moon kuta of 21.5 is just above the recommended 20 points cut off as is Venus (the karaka of relationships) at 21. Yet despite the overall passable scores, there are some clear challenges.

The key issue is the negative Shtri dirg, which is present for the Moon (Charles’s ruler), Mars (Diana’s ruler), Sun, Mercury and Venus.

With this painful shtri dirg, Diana would have experienced an all pervasive sense of Charles being emotionally distant and aloof towards her. This would have affected many areas of their relationship: their emotional and psychological connection (Moon), Charles’s lack of commitment (Saturn), difficulty in communicating (Mercury), lack of common vision (Sun), and the lack of desire Diana would have eventually felt from Charles (Venus).

The first sign of this came during their first engagement interview when a reporter asked if they were in love. While the besotted, starry-eyed Diana claimed to be “very much in love” arm in arm with her prince, Charles indifferently and dismissively added, “Whatever in love means”.

Throughout their marriage, Diana claimed Charles was aloof and cold. As is often the case with negative shtri dirg, Diana reacted by desperately trying to gain his attention. A good example is the episode when they attended the Royal Opera House on Charles’s birthday. Diana surprised Charles by appearing on stage to do a dance number with the star of the show, to the tune of Billy Joel’s Uptown Girl. While the audience was captivated by Diana’s beauty, charm and grace (there were 8 curtain calls), Charles was scandalised by the public display of affection. He saw Diana’s conduct as unbecoming a royal princess.

This episode illustrates the other issue with the kutas, the incompatibility of their Gana (temperament). Diana’s nakshatra Dhanishta is the rebellious rakshasa, while Charles’s Ashvini is the pious Deva. The stiff upper lip of a British royal would have made him feel distaste at seeing his wife dance on stage like a common performer. Diana’s rebellious rakshasa nature, on the other hand, would have been frustrated with the rigid conservative attitudes of her husband. When she was asked about the early day of her marriage and her honeymoon, she admitted, “I was bored, it was like being stuck with an 80-year-old man”. This is where we also see the downside of the many Saturn synastry aspects (see below) that feel stifling after a while.

Saturn koota points are the lowest, a painful 8.5, and this shows issues with commitment. We know of course that Charles was unfaithful to Diana from the beginning. He was in love with the woman he saw as his true soulmate, Camilla Parker Bowles, whom he could not marry at the time because of the rules prohibiting royal marriage to a divorcee. Charles was exchanging clandestine messages with Camilla while on honeymoon with Diana and wearing the cufflinks Camilla gifted him, without a care about how his wife would feel. He then quite unfeelingly attempted to set up Camilla as Diana’s friend and confidante. Diana later famously remarked “Well, there were three of us in this marriage, so it was a bit crowded.”

In response to these accusations, Charles flippantly said, “Do you seriously expect me to be the first Prince of Wales in history not to have a mistress?”

Interestingly, although the relationship between Charles and Diana did end in marriage, their ascendant kuta are rather low at 18, showing perhaps that Charles was not truly present in the marriage – his mind instead miles away with his beloved Camilla.

Synastry
The synastry of Diana and Charles’s charts shows a number of Saturn aspects, which on the one hand, would have acted as strong glue, but on the other hand, undoubtedly created issues with control, led to feelings of stress and eventually resentment and feeling stifled.

Diana’s Saturn and Jupiter conjunction falls in Charles’s 7th house. On the positive side, Diana’s appearance in Charles’ life inspired many hopes (Jupiter) about the prospect of marriage (7th), which he saw as a way to meet his responsibilities (Saturn) to his family. Casting an aspect onto his ascendant, Diana’s Jupiter would have made him feel admired: Charles would have enjoyed being the subject of her romantic hopes and dreams (Jupiter rules her 5th).

Charles’s Saturn forms several synastry aspects with Diana’s chart. It is conjunct with her ruler Mars and Rahu in the 10th. It also casts an aspect on her Venus in the 7th, and finally it aspects her Ketu + Moon in the 4th. These Saturn aspects show a lot of karmic activation. Diana initially felt secure, protected and looked after. However, Saturn connections lack warmth and eventually create controlling overtones.

Diana’s already heavily afflicted Moon would have struggled with the extra pressure from Charles’s Saturn. We know that the pressure to conform to Charles’s exact “Venus-in-Virgo” expectations caused her to spiral into battle with bulimia and severe depression. The Saturn aspect onto her Venus would have also eventually made her feel judged and self-conscious of her desires, her love of dance and fashion. Hence her reference to Charles as “an 80-year-old man”. Charles’s tastes were conservative and old-fashioned. He saw Diana as too frivolous and remarked on the lack of sophistication when it came to her tastes.

Charles’s Saturn is also conjunct with Diana’s ruler Mars and Rahu in Leo in the 10th house of Diana’s chart. This conjunction, the powerhouse behind Diana’s star quality of being The People’s Princess, quickly caused Charles to become jealous of the public’s love of her (Saturn rules Charles’s 7th house of the public, and it has low dignity in Leo). These petty feelings would have been exacerbated by the aspect of Diana’s Saturn to both Charles’s ascendant and his Sun. Charles already struggled with afflicted confidence, and the added pressure of Diana’s Saturn on his debilitated Sun and Ketu would have amplified  the deeply rooted feelings of insecurity, the pressure to shine, rallying up his jealousies towards the much admired Diana. Indeed, Charles felt diminished; he complained that Diana stole his limelight – she was meant to serve as his foil, and yet she pushed him into the background. In a Saturnine way of controlling the situation, he attempted to reign in her passionate Martian nature and to control her public behaviour. Of course Diana’s Mars was strong enough to stand its ground and carry on with her public work. “People think that, at the end of the day, a man is the only answer. Actually, a fulfilling job is better for me”, she once said.

There is a mutual Mars (his) and Venus (hers) aspect. Although the orb is wide, it shows a strong mutual attraction and initial charge. Charles would have undoubtedly found her physically beautiful and she would have been drawn to his quiet inner courage. Yet, the Saturn pressure eventually eroded the initial attraction.

Summary
As we saw from Diana’s chart analysis, she wanted to feel loved and admired. Instead, she ended up in a relationship where she felt lacking and criticised (Charles’s debilitated Venus would have left no misstep unnoticed). His difficult Saturn, 7th house ruler, with its many synastry aspects, would have made the relationship feel incredibly stifling. His infidelities (the manifestation of the low Saturn kuta) would have made her feel betrayed and abandoned, triggering the painful childhood traumas of her difficult Ketu Moon.

Charles, on the other hand, needed someone to quietly stand behind him, healing his wounded confidence, and propping up his afflicted Sun to help him win the pubic affection on his life-long journey to become the King of England. Instead, his dazzling wife stepped into the limelight and, without meaning to do so, commanded the full admiration of the British public, making her royal husband feel insignificant and awkward by comparison.  His Deva nature hungry for connection (his Moon is with Rahu in the passionate sign of Aries) would have felt offended at Diana’s rakshasa Dhanishta eccentricities and her forthright Martian nature. This would have made it difficult for them to see eye-to-eye.

Coupled with the low kuta scores, particularly for Saturn, which shows issues with commitment and loyalty, and the negative shtri dirg afflicting most of the grahas, it is no wonder the marriage eventually broke down and ended in a painful tragedy.